We went through all the cancer treatment. I was there every step of the way for him. Every chemo for 4 months, every doctor's appointment for 8 months, every surgery for 9 months. On April 11th he was told he looks to be cancer free. It really felt like a miracle. On April 12th he texted me at work letting me know he didn't want to live in that house anymore. He hated being in the downstairs bedroom. Fuck this and fuck that. It was just too much. The kids and I didn't even go home that day we just headed to my parent's house. Cancer didn't change him at all. For 5 or 6 weeks before that, he was already starting to act like a dick again. I secretly hoped he would realize through this process that we were special, that he had been pissing his life away, that he wanted to fight for us, that any job is a good job because you are doing something and contributing to the world, that spending time with us and having fun with us was worth it. You know how people talk
A lot has changed in 26 days. I've wanted to write but just haven't had the chance or privacy. On September 25th he found out he has cancer. Lung cancer. He came to the house to tell me in person and for support and has been home ever since. I honestly am not the kind of person that could have it any other way. 18 years is too long to just turn your back on someone who is about to face a battle like this. In these 3 weeks, we have gone to the pulmonologist, had a PET scan, a brain MRI, breathing test, another pulmonologist appointment and on Thursday we are seeing a thoracic surgeon about a lymph node biopsy. We know it is stage 3 lung cancer but not if it is stage 3A or 3B. He doesn't do well waiting for all these appointments and test. I don't know that anyone would do well. He has been sleeping on the couch and we are working on clearing out the downstairs bedroom so he has a place of his own. I would say we are running 40/60 on good to bad days. He has a